10 Truths to Keep Your Relationship Healthy

I think it's easy to make things more complicated
than they need to be. Here are some basic rules of
the relationship road that will keep you headed in
the right direction
1. Successful relationships take work. They
don't happen in a vacuum. They occur when the
couples in them take the risk of sharing what it is
that's going on in their hearts and heads.

2. You can only change yourself, not your
partner. If you love someone and think that after a
while he or she will alter behaviors you find
uncomfortable, think again. If you want changes,
put them on the table. so your partner knows what
you need.

3. All arguments stem from our own fear or
pain. When upset occurs, check out what's going
on inside of you rather than get angry with your
partner. Truth is that we usually aren't upset for
the reasons we think we are.
4. Understand that men and women are very
different. We're not from Mars or Venus; we're not
even in the same solar system. Understanding and
celebrating our differences will make living
together more peaceful, interesting, and fun.

5. Honor each other in some way every day.
Every morning you have the opportunity to make
your relationship sweeter and deeper by
recommitting to your mate. Feeling respected and
cherished by the one you love makes life much
nicer.

6. Anger is a waste of time. Anger is also a
relationship killer, because it makes you self-
absorbed and won't allow you to see the good. If
you are annoyed with your mate, give yourself
some time to calm down and then gently discuss
what's going on for you.

7. Get regular tune-ups. Go to a couples
workshop, talk with a counselor, or read a
relationship book together at least once a year.
Even if you don't think you need it, you will pick up
a couple of ideas, and the process alone will
strengthen your connection.

8. Find a way to become and stay best friends.
For some this sounds unromantic, but for those
who live it, most say it's the best part of their time
together.

9. Be responsible for your own happiness . No
other person can make you happy. It's something
you have to do on your own. If you feel it's your
partner's fault, think again, and look within to find
out what piece may be missing for you.

10. Give what you want to get. Our needs change
with time. If you'd like to feel understood, try being
more understanding. If you want to feel more love,
try giving more. It's a simple program that really
works.

There are no guarantees, but couples who practice
these techniques have longer and stronger
relationships than those who are not proactive in
their love.

Thanks...
M.Sai Ram